Six First Date Red Flags You Should Take Seriously
Every relationship starts with a first date. At some point, you and your partner meet up for the first time, and that event is often the deciding factor of whether you meet again and establish a connection.
You probably know all of the essential rules of first dates. It is a good idea to be genuine and inquisitive, not delve into certain ‘forbidden topics’, etc. But apart from that, you also need to be on the lookout for some of the most common red flags in relationships that can spell trouble. Let’s see some of them.
Here are some most common red flags in relationships
They don’t ask you any questions
This should be considered a red flag on a first date because the core idea of any first date is to allow both people to get to know each other better. If they don’t ask anything about you and only talk about themselves, it demonstrates a certain lack of interest and selfish behaviour.
They bring up their ex too much
This has long been regarded as a major red flag among people in the dating world, and there is a good reason for this. If they constantly bring up the topic of their ex, it indicates that they still have work to do in moving on and focusing their efforts on meeting someone new. It is even worse if they are always bad-mouthing the other person, showing them in a very negative light; it speaks even worse. A relationship gone wrong is hardly ever because of one party.
They are quick to see a future with you
Suppose the other person is quick to judge that you and them can build a future together and are quick to judge a relationship is ready to start immediately. In that case, they are being presumptuous, at best. Even if the first date is going great, you still need more time to determine whether you can be in a relationship with them.
They are not respectful of the bartender/server
That is not a red flag for a first date, but human beings in general. If the person you are on a date with is not nice to others around them, at a time they are expected to be at their best, imagine what it would be like being in a relationship with them at their worst. It shows that they need to work on themselves more and that you are maybe better off seeking a relationship with someone else.
They look at their phone
It is okay if they have to send an urgent message or take a call. But if the person seems more interested in their phone than keeping a conversation with you, then it is clear they are not interested. Or rather, they are not interested enough to engage in a meaningful conversation at a time when that is the only thing you two should be doing anyway.
They don’t respect your boundaries
Pay close attention to how your date responds when you share something they disagree with. Are they respectful, or are they ready to violate your boundaries with little consideration of how you feel? Some examples of problematic behaviour include, for example, you telling them you don’t want more drinks and them ordering one anyway. Or you are telling them that you have to head back home and insist that you stay longer.
These are red flags to watch out for on a first date. Remember, first dates are meant to introduce you to someone and see how well you click with them. If there is anything you don’t like, it is probably better to trust your instinct.
